Keeping Your Job Means Playing By The Rules

Q. I just got the world's worst job review.

It's totally unfair, my boss is the bat from hell, but I need to keep my job. What do I do?

A. No matter what you think of your boss, you can still use a horrible job review as a platform for turning a problem situation around.

First, some questions -- how come you work for a woman you bad-mouth? What leads your boss to slam you in your review? Clearly, something doesn't add up -- so -- what aren't you seeing?

You already know how you view yourself and your performance. Maybe you need to learn why your bat-boss sees things as she does. After all, she pays your salary and you can neither fix nor combat what you don't understand. You can do this by asking your boss genuine questions, listening to what she says and making notes. If you find yourself wanting to argue, hold your debate until you're completely sure you understand her viewpoint.

Once you've fully heard everything your boss says, you need to make a critical decision -- Do you want to "go along to get along" or fight?

If you intend on making this situation work and realize your boss has a legitimate view, acknowledge her perspective and make a game plan for meeting her standards. After all, she may believe what she says -- and she may even be right.

Alternatively, if you don't agree after you've heard and digested what your boss says, you can respond, "I understand what you've said, however, here's the direct evidence that contradicts your viewpoint." Because you've respectfully paid attention to your boss, you may even convince her to see you or the situation differently. If not, you may want to take your rebuttal to your bat-boss's manager.

If you take your battle forward, you may lose your argument. If so, you can decide to flee the bat-cave or realize you'd rather keep your job than insist on being right. If you choose to remain in your job because it meshes with your best interests, make the best of this situation by creating a plan for proactively turning this situation around.

How? Determine every area in which you and your boss agree so you can establish common ground. Additionally, focus on the improvements your boss wants from you and make them. Because you want to keep your job, you need to play by her rules.

Dr. Lynne Curry is a management/employee trainer and owner of the consulting firm The Growth Company Inc. Send your questions to her at

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© Lynne Curry, September 2013,